If You Hate the Kardashians, You Are What’s Wrong With America!


Yes, you read right. If you are that person who rolls your eyes every time the “Kardashians” are mentioned or worse yet, if you admit you “hate” them, you are the problem in America. I have yet to hear a good answer when I ask people, “why do you hate the Kardashians?” They answer, “because they just want to be famous!” “because they have no talent!” or because “they are trashy whores!” Huh? Do people actually hear themselves? You HATE another human being because you believe they have no talent? When I ask people to give me a real, educated answer, they never can. That’s because they don’t even know why they hate them so much. So let me enlighten you. If you hate the Kardashians, you really hate yourself. You hate the fact that they are beautiful and you are not. You hate the fact you have to work at a job in which you are miserable. You hate the fact there are people out there making an enormous amount of money, what seems to be, in a very easy fashion. You hate the fact there are people who fly private planes, eat at the finest restaurants, are able to spend millions on their parties, and who can afford pretty much anything they want. And truth be told, you can’t. By the way people react to the Kardashians, you would think they are drug lords, or better yet, that they kill puppies and children.

Do they like fame? Yes. Do they enjoy a lavish lifestyle? Yes. Was their rise to fame seamlessly easy? Yes. Yet, none of those reasons are good enough to HATE another human being. I am very passionate about this subject for several reasons. First because I noticed that with the rise of social media, so did the rise of spewing hatred. People have no issue spreading hate on social media, cowardly, in the comfort of their own home. They would never have the guts to say any of these things to people’s faces, but have no issue typing away insults. Secondly, our mentality in the States is all wrong in regards to work. I know this very well because I used to think the same way. I will never forget a class I took in college where the teacher was asking whether or not the class respected prostitutes. “Of course not!” I firmly answered. “I work my butt off working 3 jobs while getting my master’s degree and all they do is spread their legs and get paid!” So my college professor asked me a question, “Connie, what if I had gorgeous hair, and all I did for a living was cut my hair and made tons of money by selling my lustrous, gorgeous locks. Would you respect me?” Without missing a beat I said, “No!” to which my professor responded with something that has stayed with me for years, “then you, my dear, are a Puritan!” Although profound, at the time that statement did not have the impact that it did years later while on my Personal Development journey.

I have read extraordinary books from extremely successful people: Napoleon Hill, Jack Canfield, Alan Cohen, Marianne Williamson, Eric Butterworth, Wallace Wattles, Robert Kiyosaki, and T. Harv Eker, just to name a few. Although said in various ways, their message is the same. It does not benefit us to envy and hate the rich. If we wish to be successful and wealthy, we must bless those that are already there.

My mentor, Alan Cohen’s motto is, “let it be easy”. As I already mentioned, this was a new concept for me. I grew up believing you had to work hard for your money, and that if you didn’t, you somehow cheated and were not respectable! It wasn’t until he enlightened me on the fact that if we have the mindset that we must work really hard in order to attain anything, that we will attract hard experiences. Our mind is very powerful. However, if we truly believe that life can be easy, and that it’s perfectly respectable to have an easier life, we will attract those experiences. Make no mistake, “easy” does not mean “lazy”. I am merely suggesting that we ease up on ourselves and stop making everything harder than it has to be. Remember, our mind is very powerful, if we expect things to be hard, make no mistake, they will be. I certainly don’t believe that life should only be rainbows and unicorns; that is neither realistic nor beneficial. I am a firm believer that challenges in life are necessary for us to grow.

Don’t get me wrong, I have a deep respect for people who work hard. I am still one of them since my programming from childhood is “you must work hard in order to make money”. Although I understand the concept of “let it be easy” on an intellectual level, I am still working on my subconscious to believe it. I actually do believe the Kardashians work hard since they are involved in several projects. No, they don’t work in construction, so it’s not that type of “hard”. Yes, all the projects they are involved in are fun and things they love to do: modeling, fashion, social media, appearances, star in their own reality show, etc. Is there something wrong doing what you love and making tons of money from it? So they originally got famous because Kim’s boyfriend leaked their sex video. Get over it! Many people have sex tapes out there and if they were ever leaked, it would probably have the opposite effect than Kim’s did. Anyway, that was years ago and the fact that they have remained famous is testimony to how smart and brilliant they are as business women. Sorry, you can’t deny that! They saw an opportunity and took advantage of it. I wish we were all that business savvy!

Something I often see the Internet trolls write on the Kardashians’ social media is, “stop being so greedy and give your money to charity!” My first question is, how do you know they don’t? (by the way, they do). Secondly, who are you to tell people how to spend their money? What are YOU doing for the poor? And don’t tell me you don’t have money to give to the poor. Most CAN give to the poor. Every single penny counts. But if you truly can’t, you can certainly give your time and volunteer. Even if only for a few hours a month. Whatever you can do, counts. I am tired of hearing that the rich and successful must be in charge of helping everyone else while others just sit and complain without doing ANYTHING TO HELP. Plus they have the nerve to be on social media all day and insult those who are successful. They are wasting their life. It is crucial to give, whether it be time or money, to others in need no matter how much you are making.

Stop hating people you have NEVER EVEN MET! Those that have met the Kardashian-Jenner family, have nothing but great things to say about them. I hear they are ambitious, driven, professional, sweet and very polite. You don’t personally know them, thus, you can’t speak about their character. Stop hating the rich, beautiful and successful. Get out there and BECOME rich and successful! Get off of social media where you envy others and spread hatred, and READ books on how to become rich by doing what you love. Go to personal development seminars. Hire a coach. Make a difference in the world. Do what you love and serve humanity. Stop waiting on the government to help you, stop waiting for ANYONE to help and help YOURSELF! Most importantly, stop the hate. There is so much going on in this world that needs our immediate attention. We need to be beacons of light, not darkness. Let’s spread love and light. Let’s stop bringing people down. Stop being so judgmental. What you say about another human being is never an indication on their character; it’s only an indication on your character. If you are constantly criticizing others, rest assure there is inner turmoil that you must deal with. Hurt people, hurt people. Truly successful and happy people do not criticize others. They do not spew hatred and do not bring others down. They want everyone to be happy and successful. This still doesn’t change your mind? That’s fine. Keep on hating.

Good luck with that!

Sending love & positive energy,



How to Become Successful

“Rich and famous, I AM success!” is a verse from one of my favorite songs called We Run LA by Doc Hollywood. What does it mean to be successful? Does being rich or wealthy automatically make you successful? How does one become successful?

When I first started my coaching practice, I was hardly making any money. It would have been easy to blame all of my financial woes on the economy, destiny, or bad luck (afterall, I was working really hard), but could I have been the culprit  of my own misfortune? I became obsessed with reading books, going to seminars and learning from teachers topics on wealth, money, success, abundance and prosperity. The more I learned and applied the information to my life, the more my life began to change dramatically. Want to know some of the secrets to success?

There is a clear distinction between how successful people behave and think versus those who aren’t. Successful people are positive. No, they are not positive because they are successful; they are successful because they are positive. They do not go around saying things such as “I am just being realistic” since they believe that they create their own reality. The glass is always half full. They draw positive opportunities to them.

Do not talk to negative people about your goals and dreams. How many times do we have a cherished dream and tell our negative friends and family? Quickly, they deflate our dream right before our eyes. But we must take responsibility and realize that we allowed that in the first place. If we know they are going to be negative, there is no need to tell them about our dreams and goals until after we have accomplished them. There is a beautiful quote from the movie, In the Pursuit of Happiness, where Will Smith’s character tells his son “Don’t ever let someone tell you, you can’t do something. Not even me. You got a dream, you got to protect it. People can’t do something themselves, they want to tell you you can’t do it. You want something, go get it. Period.”

If you have dreams and goals you want to talk about, talk about it with mentors and other successful people. They have already accomplished great things, so they will be able to give you great advice and cheer you on. I don’t care if it’s your own mother. If she’s negative, God bless her, but don’t talk to her about your dreams.

Act in spite of fear – One of my favorite books of all time is Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker. Eker says, “Rich people act in spite of fear. Poor people let fear stop them.”

Have positive friends – Do not hang out with the negative nellies. There is a saying in Spanish that says, “dime con quién andas y te diré quién eres” which loosley translates to “Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are!” Want to be successful? Hang out with other successful people. Eker says “Rich people associate with positive, successful people. Poor people associate with negative and unsuccessful people.”

Be great at what you do right now- Are you currently at a job you dislike? Well, start liking it! Yes, you heard me. Find everything that you do like about your current job situation and be grateful that you have a job. Give 110% of yourself to your work and do it with pride. I am not suggesting you stay there forever. Eventually you will leave and start living your true life’s purpose but in the meantime, give it all you got and with a smile.

Giving and receiving– Are you good at receiving compliments? How are you at receiving gifts? Are you a generous person? Life is about finding a perfect balance of giving and receiving. In order to receive, we must give. Eker states, “Rich people are excellent receivers. Poor people are poor receivers.” One of my favorite books on wealth is called Spiritual Economics by Eric Butterworth and in the book Butterworth says “if ever there is a lack of any kind, whether it is a need for employment or for money or for guidance or even for healing, something is blocking the flow. And the most effective remedy: Give!”


Eat Healthy Food & Exercise– What does eating healthy have to do with success? Everything. I have never met a truly successful person that eats fast food everyday. Eating healthy is important for your mind, energy, mood and overall health. Buy organic, eat lots of fruits and veggies, drink tons of water, stop drinking sodas, and learn to read labels. If you can’t pronounce the ingredients, you should not be eating it!

Exercising doesn’t have to be some difficult workout. Walking 20 minutes a day will make a huge difference in your life. There are tons of fun exercises you can discover: yoga, zumba, dance class. Get off the couch and start moving!

Be Organized and Clean – In the extraordinary book Money & Women, Financial Guru Suze Orman says “you might be reading this and thinking that cleanliness is nice but not essential to your financial well-being. I am here to tell you that if this quality is not up front and center and if you do not adhere to it, there is no way you will ever own the power to control your destiny. Wealth will elude you, and you will be left with the mess you created.” 

Commit To Your Priorities– Most of us are running around like chicken with our heads cut off, but have we ever stopped and really evaluated what we do on a day-to-day basis? How much of it is really necessary? What can we permanently cut out of our schedule in order to allow time for things that will get us closer to our goals and dreams? Because truth be told, if we keep doing what we’ve always done, we will always get what we’ve always gotten.

Be In Control of Your Life– Eker also says “Rich people believe ‘I create my life’ poor people believe ‘life happens to me’”.

Be Grateful and Be Happy- The more you are grateful for the things you have in life, the more wonderful things will continue to come your way. Make a list of what you are grateful for and add to it daily. Choose to be happy now. Stop waiting to be happy. If you think that money will bring you happiness, I’ve got news for you; it won’t. If you are an unhappy and ungrateful person, with lots of money you will just become a very rich unhappy and ungrateful person.

Love Yourself and Love Others– The meaning of life is simple: we are here to love. In her class book A Return to Love, Marianne Williamson says “Love is the essential existential fact. It is our ultimate reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life.” Forgive everyone and move on. Get rid of resentment and anger. BE love.

Have Faith- You must cultivate faith in yourself and in God. Start believing more in yourself and in your abilities. Never give-up and know that it’s not that successful people never fail, it’s that they never quit. Act as if your dreams have already come true.

Are you ready to be rich and famous?

Sending you lots of love and positive energy,


Connie Costa is a Writer, Inspirational Speaker & Life-Coach

She leads transformational events and retreats in Beverly Hills, Ojai & Italy