If You Hate the Kardashians, You Are What’s Wrong With America!


Yes, you read right. If you are that person who rolls your eyes every time the “Kardashians” are mentioned or worse yet, if you admit you “hate” them, you are the problem in America. I have yet to hear a good answer when I ask people, “why do you hate the Kardashians?” They answer, “because they just want to be famous!” “because they have no talent!” or because “they are trashy whores!” Huh? Do people actually hear themselves? You HATE another human being because you believe they have no talent? When I ask people to give me a real, educated answer, they never can. That’s because they don’t even know why they hate them so much. So let me enlighten you. If you hate the Kardashians, you really hate yourself. You hate the fact that they are beautiful and you are not. You hate the fact you have to work at a job in which you are miserable. You hate the fact there are people out there making an enormous amount of money, what seems to be, in a very easy fashion. You hate the fact there are people who fly private planes, eat at the finest restaurants, are able to spend millions on their parties, and who can afford pretty much anything they want. And truth be told, you can’t. By the way people react to the Kardashians, you would think they are drug lords, or better yet, that they kill puppies and children.

Do they like fame? Yes. Do they enjoy a lavish lifestyle? Yes. Was their rise to fame seamlessly easy? Yes. Yet, none of those reasons are good enough to HATE another human being. I am very passionate about this subject for several reasons. First because I noticed that with the rise of social media, so did the rise of spewing hatred. People have no issue spreading hate on social media, cowardly, in the comfort of their own home. They would never have the guts to say any of these things to people’s faces, but have no issue typing away insults. Secondly, our mentality in the States is all wrong in regards to work. I know this very well because I used to think the same way. I will never forget a class I took in college where the teacher was asking whether or not the class respected prostitutes. “Of course not!” I firmly answered. “I work my butt off working 3 jobs while getting my master’s degree and all they do is spread their legs and get paid!” So my college professor asked me a question, “Connie, what if I had gorgeous hair, and all I did for a living was cut my hair and made tons of money by selling my lustrous, gorgeous locks. Would you respect me?” Without missing a beat I said, “No!” to which my professor responded with something that has stayed with me for years, “then you, my dear, are a Puritan!” Although profound, at the time that statement did not have the impact that it did years later while on my Personal Development journey.

I have read extraordinary books from extremely successful people: Napoleon Hill, Jack Canfield, Alan Cohen, Marianne Williamson, Eric Butterworth, Wallace Wattles, Robert Kiyosaki, and T. Harv Eker, just to name a few. Although said in various ways, their message is the same. It does not benefit us to envy and hate the rich. If we wish to be successful and wealthy, we must bless those that are already there.

My mentor, Alan Cohen’s motto is, “let it be easy”. As I already mentioned, this was a new concept for me. I grew up believing you had to work hard for your money, and that if you didn’t, you somehow cheated and were not respectable! It wasn’t until he enlightened me on the fact that if we have the mindset that we must work really hard in order to attain anything, that we will attract hard experiences. Our mind is very powerful. However, if we truly believe that life can be easy, and that it’s perfectly respectable to have an easier life, we will attract those experiences. Make no mistake, “easy” does not mean “lazy”. I am merely suggesting that we ease up on ourselves and stop making everything harder than it has to be. Remember, our mind is very powerful, if we expect things to be hard, make no mistake, they will be. I certainly don’t believe that life should only be rainbows and unicorns; that is neither realistic nor beneficial. I am a firm believer that challenges in life are necessary for us to grow.

Don’t get me wrong, I have a deep respect for people who work hard. I am still one of them since my programming from childhood is “you must work hard in order to make money”. Although I understand the concept of “let it be easy” on an intellectual level, I am still working on my subconscious to believe it. I actually do believe the Kardashians work hard since they are involved in several projects. No, they don’t work in construction, so it’s not that type of “hard”. Yes, all the projects they are involved in are fun and things they love to do: modeling, fashion, social media, appearances, star in their own reality show, etc. Is there something wrong doing what you love and making tons of money from it? So they originally got famous because Kim’s boyfriend leaked their sex video. Get over it! Many people have sex tapes out there and if they were ever leaked, it would probably have the opposite effect than Kim’s did. Anyway, that was years ago and the fact that they have remained famous is testimony to how smart and brilliant they are as business women. Sorry, you can’t deny that! They saw an opportunity and took advantage of it. I wish we were all that business savvy!

Something I often see the Internet trolls write on the Kardashians’ social media is, “stop being so greedy and give your money to charity!” My first question is, how do you know they don’t? (by the way, they do). Secondly, who are you to tell people how to spend their money? What are YOU doing for the poor? And don’t tell me you don’t have money to give to the poor. Most CAN give to the poor. Every single penny counts. But if you truly can’t, you can certainly give your time and volunteer. Even if only for a few hours a month. Whatever you can do, counts. I am tired of hearing that the rich and successful must be in charge of helping everyone else while others just sit and complain without doing ANYTHING TO HELP. Plus they have the nerve to be on social media all day and insult those who are successful. They are wasting their life. It is crucial to give, whether it be time or money, to others in need no matter how much you are making.

Stop hating people you have NEVER EVEN MET! Those that have met the Kardashian-Jenner family, have nothing but great things to say about them. I hear they are ambitious, driven, professional, sweet and very polite. You don’t personally know them, thus, you can’t speak about their character. Stop hating the rich, beautiful and successful. Get out there and BECOME rich and successful! Get off of social media where you envy others and spread hatred, and READ books on how to become rich by doing what you love. Go to personal development seminars. Hire a coach. Make a difference in the world. Do what you love and serve humanity. Stop waiting on the government to help you, stop waiting for ANYONE to help and help YOURSELF! Most importantly, stop the hate. There is so much going on in this world that needs our immediate attention. We need to be beacons of light, not darkness. Let’s spread love and light. Let’s stop bringing people down. Stop being so judgmental. What you say about another human being is never an indication on their character; it’s only an indication on your character. If you are constantly criticizing others, rest assure there is inner turmoil that you must deal with. Hurt people, hurt people. Truly successful and happy people do not criticize others. They do not spew hatred and do not bring others down. They want everyone to be happy and successful. This still doesn’t change your mind? That’s fine. Keep on hating.

Good luck with that!

Sending love & positive energy,


How to be Rich

Minutes from my house, I have my favorite lounge to relax in; it’s called Parq at The Montage Hotel in Beverly Hills. This is where I meet several of my clients, business colleagues, and all my new prospective clients. What they don’t know, is a little secret I am about to reveal; One of the reasons why I chose The Montage as my meeting point (besides conveniently located and just aesthetically beautiful) is because I observe my client’s reaction to The Montage. Parq is extremely luxurious, and the clientele is anyone from rock stars, actors, celebrities, CEO’s, wealthy business folks, etc. The place smells of money. Over the years, I have enjoyed the various reactions. It is clear that many of my clients feel very comfortable in that type of setting, while for others, it is clear they would rather be anywhere but there.
Amongst the goals they want to achieve, most of my clients have “make more money” at the top of their list. My prospective clients are very eager to tell me their woes about money and how they don’t understand why they are not making more. More often than not, these are the clients that are extremely uncomfortable at Parq. They are the ones making the negative comments about the rich that surround them. So I ask them, “what do you think about the rich?” and I usually get the same responses, “snobby”, “thieves”, “obnoxious”, “greedy”, “show-offs” etc.. In one of my all-time favorite books, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, by T. Harv Eker, he says, “you have to realize that if you view rich people as bad in any way, shape, or form, and you want to be a good person, then you can never be rich. It’s impossible. How can you be something you despise?” Eker continues by saying that growing-up he had the belief that rich people were “snobs and greedy” but that he then noticed that this wasn’t true at all. As a matter of fact, the richest people he knows, are also the nicest. This is very true for me as well. The wealthiest friends that I have are extremely nice, loving and generous. They are also the most Spiritual, creative, and inspiring. Yes, I said Spiritual. This brings me to my next point. Do you believe that in order to be Spiritual, you must be poor or middle class? Another one of my favorite books is The Science of Getting Rich, by Wallace Wattles. Wattles says, “you must get rid of the last vestige of the old idea that there is a Deity whose will is that you should be poor, or whose purposes may be served by keeping you in poverty.” I completely agree. I am very spiritual, and I believe that God wants us to live in abundance and not lack. Wattles continues, “It is the desire of God that you should get rich. He wants you to get rich because he can express Himself better through you if you have plenty of things to use in giving Him expression. He can live more in you if you have unlimited command of the means of life. The universe desires you to have everything you want to have.” Yes! I believe this 100%. What type of God would want his beloved children to live a life of sacrifice and struggle? In the book, Spiritual Economics, Eric Butterworth says that this notion that being Spiritual means to be poor, “is a doctrine that has had a tragic, repressive influence on millions of people through the ages of Christian history.” I can’t tell you how many clients I have spoken to that believe money is the root of all evil. They have the belief, that money turns you into a nasty person. So untrue! If you are a nice, generous person, more money will only make you an even nicer and even more generous person. If you are a jerk, more money will make you an even bigger jerk. The point is: there are nice people that are poor, and there are nice people that are rich. Just like there are jerks that are poor, and there are jerks that are rich. If you know rich people that are jerks, trust me that just means that they are extremely insecure. That has to do with their character, not their money. The more money my husband and I make, the more goes to charity and to volunteering, it is that simple.
So here are a few tips on creating more abundance, wealth and money in your life:
Be grateful- now! Butterworth says, “As you feel grateful…you release a vital energy that draws to you opportunities, employment, and a secure flow of substance. Everything begins to work in your life in an orderly and creative way.” This is one of the most important laws of life: be grateful for what you have now. Stop complaining. How many people do you know are constantly complaining about what they don’t have, and are not grateful for what they do have?
Be generous and giving. Most say, “once I am rich, I will give money to the poor. Right now I can’t!” but they have got it wrong. By being extremely generous and giving, we receive abundance in our life. But here is the catch: we cannot give only because we have an agenda to receive. It must truly come from our heart. Butterworth says, “if you give, really work in a giving consciousness, you must receive.” And in the book, Wealth Warrior by Steve Chandler he says, “A life based on giving becomes a life that produces wealth. A life based on getting is a life of anxiety and money problems.” Here is an example; are you a good tipper? Do you leave 20% or more? Or do you just leave a few dollars no matter how much the bill is?
Do you help others? If money is truly an issue and you are unable to give money to charity, then give your time and volunteer. There is always someone less privileged than you, so help them! Instead of doing pointless activities such as watching television, get out and help those in need. Become obsessed with giving, not getting.
Steve Chandler believes we must tap into our “creative side” and start creating. He asks, “What will you create that produces wealth? What product, what skill, what talent, what entertainment, or what service?” We all have a life’s purpose. And if you are still wondering what yours is I am going to lovingly tell you to stop pretending you don’t know. We all know what we love to do, it’s just that most of us are too scared and don’t believe we can make money by doing what we love. Society did not raise us to believe this. If there are several things you want to do, Steve Chandler suggests to just pick one and go for it. But if you just sit there and wait for your life’s purpose to come knocking at your door saying, “I’m finally here!” you will die waiting. Just get up and do something now.
Create something that inspires you. Figure out what skill/talent you have that people need and are willing to pay you good money for. Then, be committed to constantly serve. Chandler says, “To understand why you are not making the money you want to make, I first want to see where you are not serving…Businesses fail because they do not serve. Individuals too.”
Stop wasting time. Steve Chandler calls it “drifting”. Sure, we are really great about complaining about our life but how much time are we spending trying to change it? What takes up most of your time? How much time do you spend working on that business idea, your life’s purpose, or your path? No one is going to do it for you and you are not getting any younger. What are you waiting for?
Act as if you are already rich. Have you ever heard the saying, “fake it until you make it”? I am certainly not implying that you lie to people and tell them you are rich when in fact you are negative in your bank account. What this means to me is that you start visualizing the world around you from an abundant place rather than a place of lack. Are you always going around saying, “I can’t afford that?” or “one day I will win the lotto and then I can do what I really want!” Stop acting poor and start acting rich. It’s not fun when people constantly complain about not having money. This victim mentality will not get you anywhere. It has been proven that there is a direct correlation between positive people and success, just like there is a direct correlation between negative nellies and failure. You want to be around people that are happy, friendly, and have an overall positive disposition. It’s no wonder why big things happen to these individuals. People love working with them. Who wants to be around someone that is constantly complaining about their job, the economy, and life in general? Or around someone that is always frowning and doesn’t have anything nice to say? Think about when you walk into a store or a restaurant; how would you like to be treated? Those that give exceptional customer service truly understand what serving is all about.
Still convinced you have no idea where to start? Chandler tells an interesting story about a man that could not figure out that he wanted to do, so he grabbed the Yellow Pages and went through each page as if it were a life purpose menu. He narrowed his choices down to three and became highly accomplished in all three areas. The point is, he did not let the excuse “I just don’t know what I want to do” get in the way. He just chose. The most important thing you can do is choose and start right away. We are blessed to live in this amazing country where anything is truly possible. Stop waiting for things to happen to you and make them happen now.
Trust me, one of the greatest feelings is figuring out what you love to do, serving others, and making great money from that. Just as Confucius said, “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

Sending you lots of love and positive energy,

To Bethany, With Love: Coping with a Child’s Death

“I need to excuse myself to make a quick phone call to the hotel. I’ll be right back” I excitedly told the group. I was in paradise, aka Sicily, leading my most recent Transformational Journey to Italy. We were in the middle of one of the best days we had had yet: an extraordinary cooking class with a Countess in her majestic Palazzo when I suddenly remembered I had to call my hotel and make some arrangements. Alone in one of the rooms, I picked up my phone and saw a Facebook notification pop-up; my husband had just updated his Facebook status and it read, “The Heavens opened-up today and took back one of its sweetest Angels. Took her way too early. Did not get enough time to play with her, to see her run, or to call me uncle. I hope to one day get that chance, LOVE YOU Bethany.” My heart immediately sank; I threw the phone on the bed. I could not believe it. My baby niece, Bethany, had passed away at only 9 months old from a rare disease called “Biliary Atresia” just two days shy from her liver transplant. I went into the room where the cooking class was being held and called my colleague, Dr. Sarah Larsen. “She’s gone!” I told her and I threw myself in her arms, tears streaming down my face. For the next several hours, I cried, screamed, or simply sat in silence. My heart was broken.
Having grown up in Sicily, Italy, I learned that family was everything. I watched as all of my cousins marry their childhood sweethearts, have exquisite weddings, buy gorgeous homes and start beautiful families. Their entire lives revolved around good food and family. Every weekend, we would hang out with our close and extended families. I knew that when I grew up, I wanted the exact thing. So I attracted just that: a man with an amazing family (The Gomez) and with the same set of values I have. The Gomez family is very tight. All of our kids are growing up together and we love to hang out almost every weekend. The death of one of our own was something that none of us expected, or knew how to deal with.
This led me to ask deeper questions about death. These days I’ve been reading Alan Cohen, Leo Buscaglia and talking a lot to Dr. Sarah Larsen. As a Spiritual person, I know that our soul never dies. Alan Cohen says, “There is no death. What was never born can never die. That which is truly alive lives eternally.” Our physical bodies are simply vessels, but that is not the essence of who we truly are. We have a beautiful spirit that lives on for eternity. Cohen continues, “Death has no power over the spirit. Nothing has power over the spirit. We are spiritual beings, and no matter what seems to be happening in the physical world, who we truly are is always very much alive, whole, and in love.” The sacred book, A Course in Miracles, states “Death is the central dream from which all illusions stem. Is it not madness to think of life as being born, aging, losing vitality, and dying in the end?…it is one fixed, unchangeable belief of the world, that all things in it are born only to die…and no one asks if a benign Creator could will this.”
Bethany lit up every room she was in. Even in her discomfort due to the disease, she was constantly laughing at everything. Her smile made everyone’s heart melt. Her energy and essence were beautiful.
And the best part of all: she is STILL all of that and more! She is now happier and healthier than ever, and we are blessed that she is now watching over all of us. We are fortunate to have the extraordinary medium, Dr. Sarah Larsen, in our life who was able to have Bethany communicate with her parents. They talked for close to two hours, and in those two hours, Bethany’s parents truly got that their child was alive more than ever. This brought them an enormous amount of peace and happiness. Recently at a wedding, I overheard a mother complain that her daughter was crying too much. I immediately thought of my sister-in-law, and how she would give anything to hear Bethany cry again. If anything, death should teach us to not take each other for granted. Any of us can go at anytime. Think of all the petty arguments we get into with our loved ones. At whom are you currently mad and not on speaking terms? What if you knew it was that person’s last day on this earth? What if this was your last day on earth? We often ignore this fact, thinking it won’t happen to us but guess what? It happens to all of us. It’s just not worth it. If anything, this experience teaches me to be kinder toward those I love. How many times are we too hard on our own kids? Yelling, screaming, belittling, judging them and loving them only conditionally (if they do what we say). What if today was the day we stopped all of that? What if today we accepted everyone as they are, truly forgave, and learned to love everyone unconditionally? American author, Leo Buscaglia, puts it beautifully, “Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time… It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other.”
Are you ready to love – today?
Sending you lots of love & positive energy,
Connie Costa

How to Live a Healthy Lifestyle

In the United States, we have many issues: obesity, diseases, autism, depression, cancer, etc. Most believe these issues arise due to genetics or “just because,” but what if I told you that despite genetics and “bad luck,” these could be prevented and even cured in a natural and safe way? Harmful chemicals we are exposed to on a daily basis and foods are major players when it comes to our health. Yet, most Americans don’t know the basics of eating healthy and protecting their family from harmful chemicals. Although I could write an entire book on this subject alone, I will give you the very basics that will dramatically change you and your family’s life.
One of the most powerful books out there is, Natural Cures “They” Don’t want you to know About by Kevin Trudeau. Do yourself a favor and go to his extraordinary website http://www.naturalcures.com . One important chapter is, “How to Read Food Labels.” Before you purchase any food, read the label and do not buy products with the following: 1. anything you can’t pronounce 2. Monosodium Glutamate 3. Aspartame 4. High Fructose Corn Syrup 5. Hydrogenated Oil or Partially Hydrogenated Oil 6. Sugar 7. Natural & Artificial Flavors 8. Spices 9. Artificial Color 10. Palm Oil 11. Dextrose, Sucrose, Fructose 12 .Sucrulose-Splenda 13. Enriched Bleached Wheat Flour, and Enriched Bleached White Flour 14. Soy Protein Isolate.
You’ll notice that most of your current food contains these ingredients. So what should you do? Trudeau, like me, doesn’t shop at regular supermarkets and never buys brand names. The bottom line is that they’re trying to make a profit at all costs, thus use the cheapest products that aren’t good for you. Personally, I only shop at Trader Joe’s, Whole Foods, and farmer’s markets. And even at these amazing places, I read labels and make sure I’m buying organic. Whole Foods can be quite expensive and not available in all areas. Fresh & Easy is a great alternative, but once again, you must read the labels regardless. If I had more space, I would go into detail as to why all these products are harmful, which means you have homework to do.
According to the Holistic Medical Doctor, Dr. Sarah Larsen, (www.drsarahlarsen.com) “since 1940, over 75,000 chemicals have been created and added to our food chain.”
Here is another tip that will save your life: stay away from fast food- period! Please google revolutionary Chef, Jamie Oliver, who is 100% committed to educating the U.S on healthy eating. I recently read about a campaign Oliver is heading to change McDonald’s recipes. The documentary description states that, “according to Oliver, the fatty parts of beef are “washed” in ammonium hydroxide and used in the filling of the burger. Before this process, according to the presenter, the food is deemed unfit for human consumption.” Oliver says, ““Why would any sensible human being put meat filled with ammonia in the mouths of their children?” I ask the same question. We claim we are “treating” our children by taking them to fast food chains, but how is poisoning them a “treat?”
One of my biggest pet peeves is when I see people just following the masses. When I ask people why they make certain choices, I often hear, “because that’s what everyone else does,” or “I saw it on TV,” or my favorite- “because my Doctor said so.” My question is, “who cares?” Just because a Doctor said so does not make it true. Listening to your Doctor, old wives tales, the media, or the masses can be extremely dangerous. Do the research. With the internet at our hands, there is no excuse. Educating yourself on health is one of the most important things you will ever do. Dr. Larsen says, “one small step you take today can have a massive impact in your life. Switching soda to water, fried to baked, or from bread to brown rice can add years of vitality to your life.”
My favorite health expert, Arnoux Goran’s advice is, “don’t believe what your doctor says. Their information is at least 40 years old. There is new information that doesn’t get into medical schools fast enough that can save your life.” (http://thmastery.com)
Homework and tips:
-Do you vaccinate your kids? Why? Because a doctor said so? I strongly recommend you review this website: http://vaxtruth.org
-Cleaning products: go green! It’s not only extremely bad for the environment, but the fumes are terrible for you and your baby: http://healthychild.org. Check out Jessica Alba’s line of products for your house and baby, which in my opinion are the best: https://www.honest.com
-Purchase deodorant, toiletries, and make-up, at a health store.
-Sick? Don’t run to the drug store. I go to Whole Foods and they recommend the best remedies. They are more powerful than drugs and have no side effects.
-I don’t recommend flu shots or mammograms. Instead of mammograms, (which can be dangerous) I recommend BREAST THERMOGRAPHY. More info: http://www.thebreastthermographycenter.com/
Don’t take my word for it. Do your own research; it’s so much more powerful. Hopefully I have at least sparked some interest. Start by checking every single website listed above.
Are you ready to start leading a healthy life?